Business Change Strategist

Putting People and Process into Strategy

Barb Stuhlemmer Putting People and Process into Strategy
  • Home
  • Services
  • Barb’s Answers
    • Blog
    • Articles
  • About
    • Testimonials
    • Press
    • Rogers TV Shows
  • Contact

The Good, The Bad, and The Forgotten

By Barb Stuhlemmer, on December 20, 2010

Can you recall something stupid you did when you were very young? I remember in grade three telling my teacher I was going to Jay’s house for lunch. I had a crush on Jay and I could not believe my luck that my mom had arranged for his mom to look after us (my brother, sister, and me) at lunch and after school. This was ‘over-the-top’ exciting for me. So exciting I told my teacher at least 3 times that morning. When she let me know that I had already told her I felt foolish and for some reason that feeling and the embarrassment of having my crush found out has not left me.

The Good

Think of all the wonderful things you have done in your life. There are probably a few things that pop into your head, probably the ones that may have affected you emotionally.

Now get out a piece of paper and write down all your achievements, big and small. Write them down if they made a difference in your life, in someone else life, or were just a step in a larger event. Don’t hold back, put down everything.

When I was about 5 my sister and I wandered away from my parents to the river’s edge where my sister fell in. I can picture her head going under the water. I stuck my arm in and pulled her out. Miraculous you might think (and you would be right). This seems like a big accomplishment, but it could have cost my parents both our lives and it took no skill or thought on my part. For most of my life I thought of this as a large accomplishment but it was really just a reaction.

The Bad

These are the things we would like to forget. The mistakes, outburst, errors, misspoken words, assumptions, etc. that led to an event with a negative result for us or others. Check out my last blog on Mistakes.

The Forgotten

I bet when you started the achievement exercise you may have wrote down a few things and thought of stopping. When you spend focused time looking at the positive things you have accomplished you will positively affect your future. But we don’t do this often enough. We can more often remember negative events than positive ones.

Why do we spend so much time, emotion, and resources remembering things that have little or no positive value to our future? Because this is how we add positive value to our future. So now I want you create a two column page. In the first column list all the events that did not work out for you over your life. In the second column write what you learned and how it helped you with future, similar situations. If we spend time looking for the positive outcome in a negative event then everything in our lives becomes an asset to our success.

What I have found is those small accomplishments and any failures that I had to put great thought and emotion to affect the outcome, have been more valuable to my success then the large miraculous events of fortune. My embarrassment with my grade three teacher taught me to be more thoughtful when sharing my excitement if I did not want to share the entire reason I was excited. Because of that I become the person that people wanted to spend time with. It may have made me a less irritating student, but it did not stop me from sharing my thoughts with others.

Leave a Comment Filed Under: Info Barb Stuhlemmer Tagged With: Achievement, BLITZBusinessSuccess.com, business growth, business success, coach, success mindset, support

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

CAPTCHA
Refresh

*

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Certified Virtual Presenter




Free Tool and Audio

Why Your Inner
Circle of 5 Matters
FREE TOOL

Use This 30 Second Tool to Discover if
Success is in Your Future
Send me this free tool!
Don't Leave without
listening to this Interview
Episode 7

Barb’s Latest Book

Entrepreneur Awakening
- Making the move from
Employee to Owner -

BUY IT NOW
On Amazon

Recent Posts

  • Getting Back To Normal
  • Distributed Leadership
  • Like Turning A Ship?
  • What Strategy Looks Like: It’s not simple
  • No Change is Change

Archive

  • January 2022
  • October 2021
  • January 2021
  • April 2020
  • March 2020
  • January 2020
  • August 2019
  • June 2019
  • July 2018
  • June 2018
  • March 2018
  • July 2017
  • June 2017
  • May 2017
  • August 2016
  • July 2016
  • November 2015
  • July 2015
  • March 2015
  • January 2015
  • August 2014
  • May 2014
  • March 2014
  • February 2014
  • January 2014
  • December 2013
  • November 2013
  • August 2013
  • July 2013
  • April 2013
  • March 2013
  • January 2013
  • December 2012
  • November 2012
  • October 2012
  • September 2012
  • August 2012
  • July 2012
  • June 2012
  • May 2012
  • April 2012
  • March 2012
  • February 2012
  • January 2012
  • December 2011
  • November 2011
  • October 2011
  • September 2011
  • August 2011
  • July 2011
  • June 2011
  • May 2011
  • April 2011
  • March 2011
  • February 2011
  • January 2011
  • December 2010
  • November 2010
  • October 2010
  • September 2010
  • August 2010
  • July 2010
  • June 2010

Articles

Follow this link for Barb's BLITZ Big Thinker Articles https://bit.ly/fromBLITZ

Recent Comments

  • Breaking Down Your Steps to Get Everything Done | Blitz Big Thinker on SMARTAR Goals are Smarter
  • Madhav on Act ‘As If” is Not the Same as Faking It
  • Barb Stuhlemmer on The Tanacity of Entrepreneurship
  • ibrahem AL-Shameri on Helping Hand: Building Trust for Business Online
  • On the Book Shelf – What’s Barb Reading Now? Marketing, Spirituality, and Just For Fun! | Ambitious Busienss Growth with BLITZ Business Success on On the Book Shelf – What’s Barb Reading Now? – Self, Sales and Great Business

Networked Blog

NetworkedBlogs
Blog:
BLITZ Business Success Blog
Topics:
business success, business mastermind, business development
 
Follow my blog

Speaker Associations

Google

Interviews and Appearances

Interviewed for Canadian Business Magazine Article  mentor for smOffice winners 2017 to 2018  Interviewed for the Inner Dominatrix Podcast

Mentor for The HUB Inc.  Rogers TV Host of Weekly 1 Hour TV Show, Your Business with Barb 

Mentor for The HUB Inc.  Interviewed for the Inner Dominatrix Podcast  Interviewed for the Female Speaker Summit 2018

Coaching Corner for Incentive Works Show  Interviewed for article in Incentive Travel Magazine  Front cover Interview for Huronia Business Times

Copyright © 2022 Ambitious Busienss Growth with BLITZ Business Success · All Rights Reserved

Contact | Terms and Conditions | Legal

Copyright © 2022 · News Pro Theme on Genesis Framework · WordPress · Log in